susanandlance
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So you are alive Perry..............:smt017Talk to your boss and see what he thinks. If you are that close and have a family type relationship he will understand and be happy with your final decision either way.
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So you are alive Perry..............:smt017Talk to your boss and see what he thinks. If you are that close and have a family type relationship he will understand and be happy with your final decision either way.
Hey Shaun,
I have to respectfully disagree with the above statements. It sounds to me like you have just started the investigation process of this possible relocation. I would not show my hand too soon as this may not turn out favorable for you. I would continue your research, make a visit or two and if and when you decide to move, then approach your boss.
If you throw it out there now, sort of shooting from the hip, you may undermine his faith in you moving forward and start him on a search for "Plan B". Then if you stay you end up SOL. I'm giving you this advice as a BUSINESS OWNER. I have had a few employees leave the restaurant (that I co-own with my brother) over the years for better opportunities. As sad as we were to see them go we were nothing but supportive of their new endevours. Had they come to me with "I may be leaving sometime" I would have still been disappointed and probably started the search for their replacement. If they eneded up staying I probably would question to myself whether or not it was a ploy to improve their pay and or status. I don't think I would have felt the same after that.
So, if you definitely decide to leave, then approach your boss and help him with the transition and thank him for the opportunity. Un til then, mums the word. Just my 2 cents.
One of my questions has not yet been addressed and that is regarding my current boat. My initial gut instinct was I'd have to sell it here and then buy a boat down there. However, I'm not convinced about that yet. Although its a "classic", I have done SO much to her with upgrades the last few years and am very happy with her right now. I know what her quirks are, maintenance, etc. and really am wondering about moving her. I would tow down so wouldn't have to pay a mover. I would assume it would be smart to convert to a closed cooling system going to salt water? (Frank??). Other than the couple grand for the cooling I think with the lack out drives she would be a good boat there. Is it crazy to move a boat of this age that far or does the value of my upgrades and knowing what I have add enough value to make sense taking her along?
Shaun
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Todd, I appreciate your view. This has kind of been along the same lines as how I've felt. Couple things that complicate this. One, although on this forum it looks like this is sudden, this move is something I've seriously dreamt about for years. I also believe that we are at the quite serious point in the process. Number 2 and probably more important, because we are all like family, they know our life and schedule pretty well and know we have no vacation plans coming up. I feel like in order to move forward with this we need to go south pretty soon to look at some housing, neighborhoods and jobs. I'm not a liar so I don't know how to explain these trips without coming clean with our thoughts. That just adds to the complexity a bit...
Shaun
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From the last 9 months of experience in boat shopping for a classic down here in FL (looking for a 89-91 390) if your happy with your boat now and its in good shape bring it down here. I've found that many classic boats I look at down here are beat - and every owner thinks theirs is still pristine. Where I look at boat ads in NJ, NY, MI that look 15 years newer for the same vintage. I've chalked it up to boats down here being used 365 days a year vs pulled/stored/worked on in winter months up north. Wife and I are to the point we're considering buying remote and shipping.
Humph,
Sometimes as much as I like an employee or am sensitive to their issues I have to weigh out the good of me & my business against their situation. If its going to cause me to lose sleep or worry that it may have a negative effect on my business plans or income I am considering the changes needed to improve my frame of mind and business future. I am not saying that is the case here by any means. If Shaun is more friend than employee then It should have little effect. And, if he is definitely relocating I encourage honest and open communication as early as possible. I recall Shaun saying that this fellow is planning on selling the business to Shaun , or something to that effect, as he moves toward retirement. Now if Shaun shares his possible relocation, without anything firm in place, I don't see the benefit. If Shaun changes his mind his boss may already be researching an alternate retirement plan, say selling out to a chain. If Shaun decides to not relocate for any myriad of reasons (there are many moving parts in play here) he could find himself on the outside looking in.
If this situation is expected to be resolved in a matter of weeks or possibly a month then it's probably no harm no foul. But, if this drags out over months it could have a negative effect only if Shaun chooses to stay. That was my only point. I'm not saying be deceitful, just exercise some discretion on information to be shared.
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Shaun you seem to be further along with your decision than some of us possibly first thought, apart from deciding upon the exact area to move to. Can't you take a legitimate "winter break", and after you decide the place you want to be in give your boss, who is also a friend, the picture? I can't see any descent boss/friend not being understanding of your wishes providing you are up front as soon as you know exactly what you are doing and help him over his transition. No doubt he will be disappointed but if you time it right and don't leave him in the lurch he'll surely understand and remain a friend. Good luck
Well you are on to something with the further along thing. Little back story that I left out, not necessarily intentionally, but didn't originally want to make you all suffer through my whooole life story. As I have eluded to, before I went back to school and became a licensed funeral director, I was a police officer/firefighter from the time I was 19. (33 now) Again, moving ot FL has been a dream as long as I can remember. Well in 2008 we made the decision to move. We had our house sold, had moving sales, sold all of our snow blowers/plow truck, gloves, hats, everything cold weather. I had made several trips to Ft. Lauderdale interviewing/testing with the Ft. L police dept. I had made it through all of their testing and interviews and had a conditional offer of employment when we were selling everything, BTW. We also had a neighborhood picked out and Heather had a job pretty much locked up at a local hospital. (She also during this time obtained her FL RN license) Well two weeks before our move date I was contacted by the HR dept and told that a handful of Broward county deps just got the word they were getting laid off and due to the fact that they already had FL law enforcement certification they would be getting first crack at the spots so they retracted the offer. Here's where it got hairy. Knowing how bad I wanted to move, we should have not given up. But we did. We panicked when that fell through, freaked out and said we better just stay here. Well reeeally long story short I unexpectedly fell into the funeral business, quickly fell in love with it and enrolled in mort school. During the 3 years of education I was so busy and distracted from full time work and full time school I didn't have time to think about it much. Well I graduated from mort school this past January and through this past year got my national board certification and state licensing done. Now I've got nothing but work and boating...kinda like where I was in 2008. So, although it seems sudden, we were "mentally" already living in FL in 2008 and when we chickened out the dream didn't die, it just got squelched for a while. So for those of you who read this looong post, thanks and now you know the whole story. With that being said, yes we probably are much further along in the thought process than I may have eluded to in the beginning. The only regret I have so far is chickening out in 2008. I really don't THINK that's going to go away on its own...
Beginning to make more sense now At least from 2008 to 2012 you found yourself a career that's always required, especially in FL Can't see you having any difficulty getting a new position here or your "Admiral". Sounds as if you belong down here anyway.....just get on with planning it again, but actually do it this time. BTW, IMHO think you had a lucky escape from being a police officer in Ft. Lauderdale area....scary what those guys have to deal with. Everything happens for a reason eh? Good luck!
Shaun,
More important than the friend issue is the family IMHO. How old are your parents? Grandparents?
I never thought about this when I had the opportunity to relocate to Florida, which ultimately never happened.
My sister relocated due to her husbands transfer that he had requested. She had her eyes on getting out of debt and getting the bigger, new house and gave little thought to what she was leaving behind. Since she left both of my grandparents died and she wasn't here to share their last few years on this planet. My mom will probably be joining them in the not too distant future. I cherished the time I spent with them in those years. My sister still is upset that she wasn't here, regardless of how big her house is now.
This is just a little more food for thought.
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