Joint Custody
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My father’s older brother did that with his 3 kids. Charged rent, but banked, then on their wedding day, he gave them an envelope filled with the rent money he had saved for them.
JC, your 25yo bum is way beyond that idea.
My mother charged me rent as soon as I got a job other than my first paper route. 10%. Had to show the check stubs to Mom each payday.My father’s older brother did that with his 3 kids. Charged rent, but banked, then on their wedding day, he gave them an envelope filled with the rent money he had saved for them.
JC, your 25yo bum is way beyond that idea.
.Well I can say I went through exactly what your about to do and lived through it. Yes that was worded correctly and we are still together. We also had the "kid" house and "adult" house for a while which was nice.
My situation was, we decided to rent my house and live in hers. I helped her find the house and since no one had lived there before that made perfect sense. No history in the house for anyone.
Here kids were a lot younger at the time and I actually raised her youngest and think of him as mine. We still have a great relationship and all is good. The oldest was almost the end of us. We still only tolerate each other at best.
Even though there were tough times, I would never charge rent or for food etc. The only thing I would say is, possibly make them pay for there own cell phones when out of collage or start working.
As for rules etc. that is a tough one. I would and did make them all do things around the house, chores if you but possibly more then that. Things like take out the garbage and cut the grass, vacuum the house all things they will hate and not do. Keep there rooms clean etc. - monumental task at best.
The one thing you will get is "Who are you to tell me anything" when that starts and your patients have all but left you, that's when you will need to dig deep and find more.
The thing you need is your GF really needs to be on board with you being in charge to a degree. If she isn't going to change and just let her kids do what they want, you will never win and it's over before it starts.
Good luck, what attempting is not an easy thing to embark on. For what it's worth you need to ask yourself if she is who you want to stay with for a very long time, if she isn't then I would move on. I have been with my wife for over 16yrs now. The kids are on their own and doing well. The best part is we all survived it and even have smiles when we talk about